Feeling the Holiday Blues?
We launched Miss Lonely during a time some individuals find to be the loneliest season of the year so we found it fitting to get a group of Miss Lonelies together to discuss what the 'holiday blues' means to them. We reflected on our shared experiences and why the holidays often drive a state of loneliness. What we learned we had most in common was a sadness that came from change and the transition into adulthood. As Christmas (or another celebrated holiday) is often associated with family and childhood, we revel in those early memories that are so sacred and dear. We may find ourselves quietly mourning the loss of our old traditions as we create new moments with our loved ones. Or perhaps the opportunity to create new traditions hasn't been realized for us yet, and that might make us feel more alone.
This shift in life brings to the surface other realities we face entering every holiday season, whether it's being the only single person in our family or group of friends, being surrounded by children that aren't our own, the loss of a relationship or friendship we've spent past holidays with, or feeling an immense pressure to spread joy and happiness when we ourselves aren't feeling particularly cheerful. Whatever that transition may mean for us, it might be hard to cope.
We also recognize that some childhood memories might not be as revered by all of us, since the holidays are a reminder of a joyful youth that some unfortunately never had. This season might evoke strong feelings of trauma, abandonment, or other darkness. If that rings true for you, know that you are not alone.
Inspired by the holiday blues, we created our limited edition candle 'Barely Blue', with the aim that each holiday season brings us closure, peace, and hope. Like the spectrum of emotions we feel during the holidays, we may feel blue, but perhaps barely. We might feel sad and alone, while also feeling festive and merry. We might feel tired and tapped out, while also feeling inspired and hopeful. And we might feel heartbroken, while also feeling excited for a new chapter.
We ask our Miss Lonelies to sit with all of the feelings that come up this holiday season and find ways to share these feelings with friends, family, or your community. If the holidays can gift us anything, it's connection and kinship. If you're struggling to find ways to connect, we'd love to hear from you!
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